We are inundated with so many ‘experts’ in NPD & BPD right now, often usually mostly coming from ‘mind first’ schools of traditional psychiatry & psychology, mostly with extremely damning views & visions of most of the personality disorders & their likely trajectory though a persons lifetime.
I’m going to take a less usual stance to the mainstream opinion about the terminability of the Cluster B personality disorders of which I draw ideas from right across the wider smorgasbord of thought & indeed modalities of healing to draw a more positive picture for sufferers.
When you factor in the intrinsic reality that the 4 Cluster B personality disorders: ASPD, BPD, HPD & NPD, are basically groupings of behaviours & symptoms that have been partitioned fairly arbitrarily with the agreed general acceptance that for instance, BPD is up to 40% co-morbid, or shall we say intermingled symptom & behaviour wise with its cousin NPD. I’m not going to ferret around getting data on the commonality of the others in cluster b groupings as this is the particular data point that I’m going to centre my thoughts around because I have hands on personal experience of it.
What’s coming up for me is that the sheer wall of negativity that is facing pwNPD & BPD when dealing with this huge mass of material put out by ‘experts’ atm, yes it may be necessary to shock locked in harmful Narcs & Borderlines to seek some kind of change to their inner & outer machinations but but but it’s absolutely lending no hope, no escape to pwNPD even as a possibility & i, as a person with BPD actually in remission, stand vividly against this info onslaught that is occurring.
It’s also occurring against pwBPD of course but because there are now, quite newly, significant numbers of remissions known to be occurring both with & without any kind of therapy, within this group, as I’ve said before, often times the map plus some genuine support has shown itself to be enough to halt & retreat the urge to destructive behaviour.
My point is, & it’s directed to all the highly qualified Drs that are seen as valid sources knowing it all on these subjects, these PDs, is that your uniform prediction of the high likely failure in Cluster B people in recovery is erroneously based on therapy models that place the separate mind & conscious reasoning as the access point to change, when, coming from a wholistic stance, i don’t find that much can change from interventions at that level alone.
Also this negative position stands in stark contrast to the fact that simultaneously at this time the immensity of new psychological ground being won by millions of us through the ‘body first’ schools of healing; poly-vagal, somatic, EMDR, fascia release, low cortisol exercise, neurofeedback, nutraceuticals, Classical Chinese medicine & Ayurveda to highlight the most well know & well documented examples of body first healing modalities that have the capacity to assist in the transformation of the nervous system & by this the psychology of a person.
So, have hope Cluster B, have hope & yet take action. You’ve got a whole new sense of self to win, to build & I’m not saying it will be easy, I’m just saying that they, the so called experts, literally are just talking heads with their archaic talk therapy that EMDR alone, with or without a therapist has the capacity to undercut time required to experience positive change by 10x.
10 times as fast = one session of EMDR with its direct line to the nervous system is worth 10 expensive sessions talking round & round your monkey mind, slipping & sliding around in the lonesome yet genuinely endless mental realms & often completely detached from the very body-mind you were born with, that is the real you, those that were detached from each other literally by trauma, not by thought, it was pre-thought every time with all Cluster B so we must absolutely endeavour to treat the trauma first.
I’m going to reproduce my last blog piece from my old blogger on here because while it was perfect as the last words on sonjaconscious.blogspot.com it explains very simply the lightness of true self hood & how attainable that is, with a willingness to be embodied & to just become aware of when you are not. It’s that simple. It need’s resolve, it needs deep genuine desire that you might have to conjure with your imagination at first - Cluster B are imaginative adepts - but the pay offs are immense.
We are too often after a rather convoluted sense of ourselves in order to exist in the world when it’s really not necessary. We were gestated with & then born with fabulous interactive multi system sensitivity & redoubtable self healing capacity & when allowed to re-gestate sufficiently in a conducive enough external environment, with the right inputs, i believe everything is healable at least until the soul/higher self is done with this lifetime.
We all need regular access to positive role models & healthy elders & we need reliable psychological supporters of this I am convinced. And we all need to be held & touched by someone who feels safe enough if that’s possible —— sans that pets count, pets completely count I can totally testify for pets. ✋👊✊
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