Arriving in Presence - overcoming depersonalisation & derealisation disorder

I have to share this Medium article as it uses the same graphic as I just posted 

scroll down to the “ Coming back to your senses” heading to miss all the nuts & bolts 

https://medium.com/@andreyvukolov_53472/arriving-in-presence-overcoming-depersonalization-derealization-disorder-516b46be81c1

I really relate to this disorder historically speaking. BPD & all Cluster Bs are post traumatic conditions with potentially very strong disassociative, derealization & depersonalisation features.

Neat Poly Vagal Graphic

 Poly Vagal theory is so damn helpful - I’ve had great success with my over all nervous system integrity with some really simple exercises, also the fascia release from Human Garage that I posted - I did it as proscribed a couple of times, def felt benefits then adapted it to a simplified version I can do daily or when I’m anxious - fabulous stuff 

Dr Ettensohn of Heal NPD - 2 videos

 

The first video is word to both pwNPD as well also their ‘victims’ - something that does not really happen on the big mainstream channels about Narcissistic abuse. I think it’s a really vital & relevant conversation that should be happening so much more on these hugely popular accounts.

If you don’t have damaged or porous boundaries you are impregnable to Narcissistic abuse; toleration of abuse is demonstrating to you where you are porous, flawed & therefore vulnerable to the continuance of abuse.

If you are always looking for the chink of positivity & the lesson in life you might be able to see it as a service the abusive relationship has done for you by rudely awakening you up to your own woundedness by finding it, targeting it & thus amplifying it. When you failed to protect yourself by walking away it must be assumed that you were experiencing the abuser as significantly more valuable ‘to you’ than your own self, including your own self preservation, self respect, self esteem & individuation. A state of deep delusion if there ever was one, a situation that inevitably results in more harm & new trauma.

I don’t know if my ex, 20 yrs my senior, 5 yr deeply traumatic relationship ending when I was 33 had NPD, he certainly had several traits but he had been in many & varied deep therapeutic self development/self reflective environments for most of his adult life due to his constant anxiety & inner sense of insecurity. Chances are that he was a semi conscious NPD with complex trauma working on himself to my undx BPD & complex trauma - I certainly experienced him as more valuable over & above my own self esteem, self care etc. it was a very distinct experience because I consciously knew he did not serve or support me on any level whatsoever but I was emotionally unable to detach. A very clear cognitive dissonance right there. 

The mass Narc abuse education, release & healing from that that’s occurring atm seems to be a communal throwing off of an old school deep secret in society & families passed down, of a somewhat normalised state of trauma. The Narcissist themselves hugely being the bearer of as well as the detector & distributor of trauma. That said, only those with significant unconscious unexamined damage can succumb to such manipulations for any length of time.

By its unnatural anti-life nature, late stage capitalist society has engendered generations of deeply unconscious wounded, highly stressed parents who go on to deeply wound their own children if they do not break the cycle somehow. Cycle breaking time is upon us, if ever there was one, it is about now. 💪🩷

Dr Ettensohn on Cluster B Depersonalisation & Derealisation

Well kinda sorta, partially.

I relate to some of this, historically, with BPD in remission. He’s got a real gift for reframing things to make them less threatening. And it’s details like this & an attitude of compassion like this that open up the quieter, semi conscious suffering just under the surface of all Cluster B 🙌

EFT

 Emotional Freedom Technique

A form of meridian tapping plus kind of affirmation sequences for mental, emotional, nervous system health I’m sure you’ve heard of it. Anyway just a personal note.

I hate it. I had a very bad time with EFT about 15 yrs ago - it absolutely acerbated my nervous system dysfunction & therefore my mood.

Now, knowing I have Sensory Processing form of Autism plus inattentive ADHD, I believe it was just massively overstimulating to my nervous system. It may have helped me at another time in my life when my nervous system was not so badly damaged but now I instinctively trust it not.

It was all the rage at one point in Totnes natural health circles & as ever I gave it more than a fair shot & as is typical for me, pushed on with it when I should have stopped, being entirely without support or guidance with a truly nasty & disorienting line up of nervous system issues.

Easy Life Repair Strategies via Brain Re-Programming - Bruce Lipton PHd talks to Dr Rangan Chatterjee

I’ve followed Bruce’s renown work for decades now. A scientist with a spiritual edge, he is my kinda guy.

This is such a long conversation at 1.5hrs but it’s very relaxed with such a congenial pair of progressive educators. Cutting to the chase though, in summary changing your earliest dysfunctional brain programs is still possible at any age using the hypnotic window of falling asleep as your brain naturally drops to Theta brainwaves, being the most opportune moment to use positive messaging in a subliminal, suggestion or wtv you like on the target areas of your life that are badly aspected due to childhood.

Also, i use Theta Isochronic Tones for deep relaxation purposes so adding suggestion elements then again would be great, either reading positive statements, positive material or choosing music for a source you trust that already incorporates both. 

Secondly, Bruce suggests using the conscious mind to interrupt the flow of robotic sub-conscious programming as much as possible in day to day life & to be fair that was my main route out of those ones that made my life a misery, you know what I mean. Pre- dx my BPD scripts where so deranged I just had to watch & be determined to do nothing whatsoever until the storm had subsided, not even knowing what I was dealing with for so long & yes, I used affirmations & had positive suggestions & reminders dotted around the house.

To be honest being in constant nervous system pain for decades I was always instigating a barrage of self help modalities & I think in retrospect very many of them had a positive & long lasting impact.

The big guns have been in the last few yrs: Isochronic Tones, diy micro EMDR, Fascia Release, Somatic Release & Poly Vagal stretches have been the most potent but there are so many others that have contributed & still are. Too many to list right now.

Bruce also signposts the listener to his website http://www.brucelipton.com for a list of fast track energy psychology tools.

Oh here you go - https://www.brucelipton.com/other-resources/#belief-change yes a truly fabulous link list of mind tech - a very imposing list in fact & I assume much of it expensive & you know me, if it’s free like EMDR or walking I’m all over it - all the same, if I was still in need of big change to my unconscious programming I would seek reviews on some of these fast track mind techs for sure. 

Mainstream medicine is incredibly regressive in several areas of human health & just really slow in other areas &, with a pharmaceutical thrown at all ills, deeply dysfunctional.